Brian was at the time a gynecologist and to abbreviate a story I helped him with his bees, and we had contact over a few years. I was working in Wangaratta from 1976 but was often home on weekends and when sister Meredith was expecting her first child I suggested Brian to her and he worked with Meredith through her pregnancy and birthing. He had a life change after that and left Australia to live in England and become a hypnotherapist. I have probably told that story somewhere previously in more detail in my blog, it's difficult to remember all that you write and I'm sure I'm a little repetitive sometimes.
I contacted Brian a few years ago when I thought I had polymyalgia, this being thirty years after our last contact, to ask him if he knew of any tricks I might do to improve my situation. After a little jogging of his memory he recalled me well and sent me some meditation tools. During that process I must have "liked' something on Facebook that came up mentioning Dr Brian Roet and I now receive updates from Sarah Ariss, and I just love her thinking and writing. So I'm going to try to reproduce some here. I tried to copy and paste straight from her blog but warnings came up from Blogger which I don't quite understand so I'm going to try saving on word then copy and pasting.
About Me…
A Little More about
Me…
I have always been interested in people. As a
teenager I was painfully shy, but I have learnt that asking people about
themselves is a great way to overcome that shyness. Its funny how a smile and
an interest in another person can make you forget your own self consciousness!
I love listening to people. Which is fortunate in my line of business!
I have always enjoyed drawing and painting and my
latest interest is photography. All the photos on my website were taken by me. I
photograph the countryside around where I live and particularly like macro
shots of flowers!
At university I studied History of Art and then
English Literature. Love of learning is something that plays a huge part in my
life.
Why did I decide to
become a Cognitive Hypnotherapist?
I have experienced, with a close family member,
just how frustrating and upsetting it can be to have to fight for help where
Mental Health is concerned. I decided that if I could ever help anyone in the
same position in the future, I would. I want to treat people with care, respect
and kindness.
My own life changing experience of hypnotherapy
came when I sought help for a fear that was beginning to really restrict my
life. In one session my life was transformed. The strange thing is that I
remember asking the therapist “Did you actually hypnotise me?? ” It didn’t feel
weird or life changing – I just felt calm and relaxed. I couldn’t really
believe how quickly and powerfully the therapy worked. It was as if the fear
had never been there…
I began to realise that training to be a
hypnotherapist myself would mean being able to help people in a way that would
be both extraordinary and incredibly rewarding. I knew that I would be able to
help people who were possibly in the same position I had been in with my family
member.
I wanted to make sure that I studied Cognitive Hypnotherapy with a school
that was credible, supportive and that gave me an in depth knowledge of my subject.
I researched courses extensively and chose to study
with the founder of Cognitive Hypnotherapy and Wordweaving™, Trevor Silvester, at the Quest Institute in Regent’s University, London. It is a decision that has quite
simply changed my life. The HPD Diploma course is an eleven month course with
hands on practice as well as written examinations including case studies. It is
intensive and thorough. The Quest Institute is considered one of the premier
schools for hypnotherapy in the country.
Positivity.
Positivity is not something that everyone has. When
faced with a challenge, or a dilemma, some people’s first reaction is “I can’t
do that!” For example, when I wrote a post about Relaxation and how
important is is for our mental health, a couple of friends told me that they
just don’t have time to relax. I have another friend who is very ill, but I
never see her without a massive smile on her face and a determination to make
the most of every day. I wonder what makes the difference? Why does one person
find quite small challenges impossible and yet another is willing to keep
trying even when they know that the challenge they face is enormous?
A Change of Mindset
I had lunch with my mum the other day. She is 80
this year and never ceases to amaze me. Since my father died 16 years ago ( I
can’t quite believe its that long…) she has grown and grown as a person, full
of energy and vigour. Having smoked for 60 years she recently gave up and looks
even brighter than ever. But she wasn’t always like this. I remember her being
quite a negative person, but as time has gone on she has changed. Her cup is no
longer half empty, but half full. Most days she would tell you her cup is full
to overflowing. Even when she has difficult times, and she’s had a few lately,
she lifts up her head and says, “I am not going to let this affect me. I am
going to be good and kind and positive.”
So how has she changed? And how do clients I work
with change from the negative loop they are in, to a loop of positivity?
The Two Wolves
There is a story I tell people…you may well have
heard it before, but I find that it really resonates with the people I see. It
is the story of the Two Wolves… There was once an old man, a Cherokee, who was
sitting with his grandson….They were talking together about life and the way we
live.
The old man told the boy that each of us has within
us two wolves who constantly battle for superiority. There is a Bad Wolf full
of Anger, Hatred, Self Pity, Arrogance, Envy, Lies and Negativity…. and there
is a Good Wolf full of Love, Kindness, Empathy, Hope, Humility and Positivity.
The boy looked at his grandfather and thought for a
while, then asked, “Grandfather, which of the two wolves is strongest? Which
wolf will win?” The old man smiled at his grandson and said, “The one you
feed…”
Every Cloud has a
Silver Lining
So is that the secret? Can you become more positive
by seeking out the good things in life and choosing to feed your Good Wolf? My answer
to that would be, Yes. Now, I know that not every day is brilliant. There are
days when things are actually rather rubbish and there can be periods of our
lives when it seems everything is dark and dismal. Yet, even in those days
there will be moments where the sun shines through, moments where the dark
clouds are not quite so dark.
By feeding our Good Wolf we lighten our days. If we
can find one good thing from a terrible situation, or if we can react in a way
that is kind and understanding, it changes the way our brain works. By feeding
the good we start to notice more of the good around us and that way the sun
starts to shine.
I am not saying that this is the easiest thing you
will ever do, but wouldn’t all of us rather live in a world where the Good
Wolves thrive? There is no script to our lives…. There are no rules that say
you have to be a certain way… and that means that you can
change. Tomorrow, or today, or now….you can choose to think a different way. I
think that’s what my mum has done. I think that she has chosen to love the
people and the world around her, no matter what, and by feeding her Good Wolf
she has changed the way she thinks, the way she lives. She relishes life.
That is part of the work I do….helping my clients
to think a different way. It is so wonderful to see people realise that, if
they choose to, they can change their lives. If you are curious then why don’t
you get in touch?
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